This is the OFF topic spot...

[GT4me]

OK, does anyone out there have a recommendation of a good divorce atty. who practices in Prince William County?

I'm sure someone's heard a name somewhere. [[-o<]

[ArmyVette]

I can give you the name of one that practices in Prince Willy and Fairfax Counties who SUX!! [X-(] [X-(] [X-(]

Actually, I came out OK but this guy is pretty worthless.

Standing by for someone who can really answer your question..... [:">]

[Black396]

I can give you the name of one that practices in Prince Willy and Fairfax Counties who SUX!! [X-(] [X-(] [X-(]

Actually, I can out OK but this guy is pretty worthless.

Standing by for someone who can really answer your question..... [:">]

I can empathise with Jeff on this one. Maybe we should give the names and contact info of the ones we used to give your ex. [>:)]

[badaz06]

Divorce...the crappiest part of the process indeed. I hope yours goes well Jen. My guy was in Arlington CTY...so no help there. Except his wife had just done to him what mine did...cleaned everything out and split. Maybe that's why he seemed anxious to do it for so cheap ;)

And did it so....well [:D]

[GT4me]

Damn Gang, I thought for sure someone would have a name!

As for the ex, he's already got his lawyer, her name is Trautwein, anyone have any thing bad to say about her? LOL
Of course he's got mommy and daddy paying for his condo, and lawyer, so money isn't an object for him.

[janderson]

I'll ask around. I know a couple of folks that have had this issue.

My divorce from the first wife was in Florida so no help there [:D]

[joe1968]

Sorry to say I do know of one...Her name is Lorie Rollinson she is in Prince William and is a good one. She handled mine and came highly recomended. She is also a stand in judge in P.W. I have her number at work drop a e-mail with your number and I'll call you.

Joe

[GT4me]

Thanks Joe, email sent [[-o<]

[GT4me]

OMG...I need to vent! ...so why not do it in a public forum (lol)

The STBE (soon to be ex) handed me a settlement proposal last night. I told him no, without opening it, because as of yet I am not represented by a lawyer. He is, and he said just look at it, I said not unless you give me money to consult a lawyer, he said no he didn't think so, but just to look at it. Idiot that I am, I did look...and if it was possible my jaw would have hit the floor. He basically has it that I deed house to him and move out within 45 days, he gives me half for the aprraised price minus the loan amount, he gets the Bronco, the Escort, and the Model A, he gets custody of the 15 yr old daughter, and week on week off custody of the 11 yr old boy, and if I choose to move out of Manassas City, he gets full custody of the boy. He wants to pay me $1667.00 a month alimony, for 4 years (we've been married 18) and since he would have the daughter he sees it ending up as me paying him $457.00 a month child support.

Let me just add that I work as a substitute teacher (part time right now) and make about $12,000 a year in a good year. I never finished my degree, where he has finished his (durring the marriage). As of right now, he pays nothing to me directly, if I need food he buys a gift card to a grocery store, if I need gas, he has me meet him at a gas station, if I need to go to the Dr's he writes a check to the Dr. This is all just unreal! I do have an appointment to meet with the lawyer Joe Malo recommended, but I even had to boorw the consultation fee from a friend. The owner of Excessive Motorsports lent me the $25 dollars I needed to file for the custody and support hearing.

Divorce SUCKS! [:-s]

[ArmyVette]

OK, Jenny. Breathe deeply.

One thing about divorce court, by definition, it is supposed to be a court of equality. The primary consideration of the court is (1) care of the children and (2) division of the martial assets.

So, in point number (1), do you want the kids? If so, you can probably successfully contest keeping the house and obtaining child support (which is defined by FEDERAL guidelines, not State). Note, however, that you never get enough child support to fully support kids. They are expensive!!

Point (2) is impacted by what happens in Point (1). If you choose to take one child each, you can contest who gets the house and who gets the mortage (no necessarily the same person). You can also request that home, cars, etc., be sold for fair market value, the loans for the home and cars paid off, and the balance split between the two of you. You should also note any bank balances prior to and after the divorce petition was filed. Courts look unfavorably at either party raiding the bank accounts prior to the divorce.

Another consideration while on this nasty subject: Visitation rights are written as if the parties involved live right next door to each other. If you have no child custody or split custody (you have one; he has the other) and plan move away from your STBE, this may become an issue.

One other touchy subject: be careful about getting a boyfriend while you're still working through the divorce. While the only grounds for divorce in Virginia is "unreconcilable differences" (I think??), anything your STBE can use against you in court, might be introduced.

Good luck, Jenny, and keep us posted.

Jeff

[badaz06]

Jen,

My ex threatened me with similar things...I wouldnt sweat it...it means nothing..he's just living a pipe dream. Jeff gives some great advice...play smart. Lawyers will work on payments as well, if you're having serious financial issues. I would think there has to be some sort of woman's organization for housewives....

Best of luck hon.

Jeff

[GT4me]

Thanks guys! Right now breathing is a touch difficult.

All I have ever really wanted was my children. He knows this. He walked out (6 months ago) without any sort of a seperation agreement in place. We tried mediation for a time, and he told the mediator the only reason he wanted the kids was so that he wouldn't have to pay me child support. The only reason the 15 yr old is there now is because he is buying her anything and everything she asks for. He agreed at the mediator's that my keeping the kids WAS in their best interests though. He's now changed his tune. He even called Social Services and tried to charge me with neglect/abuse. That got shot right down when the SS worker came over. She saw right through his plan. All the while, over the past 6 months, I was having difficulty getting the daughter to even want to visit her dad on his weekends. She did not want to be with him for more than 24 hours, and I even had a voice mail message from him one time saying "I'm dropping her back off I can't take her s**t anymore" That being after he'd had her less than 24 hrs. All that time I made it clear to our daughter that she needed to see her dad, to spend at least some time with him because he would try to use it against me if she didn't. Now it seems that he will not make her come visit me, or even talk to me. It is breaking my heart.

As far as the dating thing goes...well he and I are both guilty of that. I even went over to his apartment, when taking the daughter back there one day last week, and photographed his condoms and astroglide. He also has a profile posted on several dating sites. So hopefully one negates the other.

This is all sordid and shameful. I love my children more than life itself, and cannot even imagine what it would be like to lose them both. Believe me I am hoping I can get my daughter back, although I have heard it is difficult when a child that age wants to live with one parent over the other. However while in his custody she has not been taking her medications (required daily) and is exhibiting many other harmful behaviors. She has a history of psych issues. [:(] I hope that I could get a judge to see what would be in her best interests would not be living at his place full time.

As I said thanks for the words of wisdom, I am at the "can't see the forrest for the trees" stage right now.

[badaz06]

deleted your IM?

[GT4me]

I have a new aim screen name gidgething1

The STBE deleted my AOL account.

I'm still jennrh13 on yahoo

[badaz06]

OoOoOOooooooo....so that's who's been sending me all those IM's describing unnatural s...umm..nevermind [:-$] [[-X] [:-"]

[GT4me]

You didn't guess that already? You met the STBE once, didn't you ask me how it was that I'd married a gay man? [8-|]

[badaz06]

You didn't guess that already? You met the STBE once, didn't you ask me how it was that I'd married a gay man? [8-|]
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